An Exercise to Train Myself To Believe In MyselfJanuary 25, 2019 [Sarina Jain]
While everyone is setting resolutions for the new year, one goal I always have is to continue my positive mindset growth.
I always have a bubbly, happy personality and I find that having a sunny outlook can help you with your resolutions and goals. In fact, my friend Lauren jokes that I’m so positive and happy that even a rock can fall in love with me! Lately, I’ve had to train myself again to think positive and have a brighter outlook. Getting married and having kids can definitely jade your vision. I know this is temporary, but in that state, I have to remind myself that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Success will always happen after you work on your mindset. I’m working on my mindset constantly, especially as I grow my business — Masala Bhangra and my personal life.
Everything that we do, all decisions we make, emotional and practical all come from the mindset. We control everything we feel and think. So as you think about your goals this year, know that it all starts in your mind. Want to lose weight? Want to start a business? Want to travel more? Want to meet Mr. Right? Everything and I mean EVERYTHING starts in the mind first.
I was practicing mindset before I knew I was practicing it! I grew up with a positive outlook on life. I always looked at the glass half full. But, just like anyone, I also have my days when I don’t feel like putting in the work (especially after recently giving birth to my second daughter), I’m too tired or I feel discouraged by life. Running a business and being a fulltime mom is not easy.
It has been a journey for sure! And I can say that I don’t regret a single thing. I have truly enjoyed getting everyone up and moving and enjoyed what it has done for so many people around the world. I am in a good place, established, but I still get to work hard and hustle.
Use Positive Language Daily
The words you use are important and can be dangerous. Pay attention to your language. What are you saying to yourself? For example, if you’re constantly saying, “I suck,” then that’s what you’ll believe. But if you say to yourself, “I am great at what I do and I provide value,” then that’s what you’ll believe.
When I feel discouraged or down, I take it on for some time and then get out of that mindset. It doesn’t serve me to be in a slump for very long. I don’t like who I become when I start to think negatively. I first do what I need to do to take care of myself. I’m not going to get anything done if I feel like crap. So if I need to take a nap, workout (even if it’s a quick one), or spend some time with my family, I will do that. I take breaks when I need to so I can grow my business and take care of my family. There are times when I have to tend to my child before writing this blog for example. I have caught myself in a huff and puff about it. Then when all said and done, I am reminding myself to be in the present moment and that it will all get done when it is supposed to get done. Life has changed dramatically and I get to embrace it with more patience and more positive words to myself and to others.
We’ve all been in a position where life hasn’t gone the way we’ve expected, our hearts have been broken, and some days we just don’t feel “good enough”.
It’s normal to not feel good enough. I have this feeling all the time. But I always ask myself: Is not feeling good enough getting me anywhere in business and life? The answer is always no.
So I do what I need to do to get out that state. I will meditate, go for a run on the treadmill or repeat positive affirmations like, “I am doing the best that I can. And that is good enough.” So I work to get to the root of those bad feelings out of my system. Is it because I had a long day? Is it because I feel burnt out? Is it because someone’s said something nasty to me? Who knows, but it can’t bring you down so much to the point where you lose your positive mindset
I understand why I feel that way and then I turn it around because it does not add any benefit to think negative. I work on building good habits. It is harder to think positive than negative. So this is something you will have to train your brain to do. The next time you have a negative thought, try to catch yourself and rewrite that thought. In the heat of it all, train yourself to constantly think better, cleaner and wiser as the other way will poison you. These are feelings that you will go through and you have to take your time to get out of it.
This is a daily practice. It won’t happen overnight. Repetition is key. It’s not always easy. So I recommend putting reminders in your phone to check in with your thoughts, write yourself positive notes on post-its and put them in places where you’ll see them daily (workspace, bathroom mirror, etc.).
Why waste years of your life on a feeling. Feelings come and go. Take the emotion out of it and you’ll be surprised by how much you’ll get done. It is better to go through it, embrace it, and shift quickly to get your mind ready for more that is to come.
I’m all about setting goals, positive vibes, and working on your mindset! There is no point in doubting yourself! I believe in you and it’s time to start believing in yourself! It’s time to fall madly in love with yourself!
What are you new year goals? Tell me in the comments!